Fighting off School Bullying

In a recent conversation with a friend, she discussed some particulars about a mandatory training her employer instituted. The training was rather progressive and something I had never heard done in the professional space. It was a training to create a safe space for individuals transitioning to another gender.  Consultants, therapists, and trainers were brought in to teach, answer questions, and facilitate a healthy conversation. One of the most important factors is that the president of the organization was an active and fully engaged participant in the training. As matter of fact, it was her idea. Having the organization's figurehead participate in this training would make other employees view it more seriously.

That conversation made me think about the recent attention on bullying. A number of recent stories have emerged concerning  suicides of young students who were bullied based on sexual orientation, with the latest being the student at Rutgers University. According to a 2009 survey conducted by the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) of more than seven thousand middle and high school students, nearly 9 out of 10 LGBT students experienced harassment at school in the past year and nearly two-thirds felt unsafe because of their sexual orientation. According to LGBT legal assistance organization Lambda Legal, almost one-third of LGBT students drop out of high school to escape the violence, harassment, and isolation they face there - a dropout rate much higher than the national average.

Recently, Secretary Arne Duncan released a statement calling for “parents, teachers, students, elected officials, and all people of conscience…to stand up and speak out against intolerance in all its forms.” Under the Safe Schools Improvement Act of 2009, states can use grants to fund local educational agencies (LEAs) and schools in preventing and responding to incidents of bullying and harassment.

Many schools that I have been involved with in my career have had anti-bullying and harassment policies, but do not provide trainings for their students and staff. The training I heard about from my friend sounds like something that could help students really understand diversity outside of race and ethnicities.

Should schools receive funding particularly for trainings by organizations like GLSEN? Are there other or more effective ways to lessen acts of bullying and harassment to LGBT and all students?


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Squires2 years ago
Great and timely post. School should be one place where children can feel safe, sheltered from the harsh realities of the outside world but it seems like many children view school as anything but a safe space. I don't see anything wrong with schools receiving funding from orgs like GLSEN, particularly if much of the bullying incidents revolve around orientation/identification issues. I'd be interested in learning more about how the term "bullying" is currently understood. I received my fair share of teasing in school but I'm not sure when harassment escalates to the level of bullying. It's important to clearly define the problemkkan before any definitive policy prescriptions can be created.
DJ2 years ago
I think you have a good point; most of us don't have, and probably never considered any training on LGBT issues and especially gender identity issues within the workplace. As educators we learn the different aspects of gender identity and how to advocate for our students and help them self-advocate. While bullying is not a new issue, we must stop minimizing it due to our own experience with it. Many adults consider it "kids being kids" but it is my belief that we have surpassed the teasing and playground banter and have moved into bullying that doesn't stop when you leave school. Bullying is now following children home via the internet, giving them no reprieve and added helplessness. I don't have a viable solution at the moment, but definitely think we must keep this conversation going until we have one.
Jason Amos2 years ago

Over the weekend, Arne Duncan, the U.S. Secretary of Education, and Kathleen Sebelius, the U.S. Secretary of Health and Human Services, weighed in on the subject in a joint op-ed that was published in the Houston Chronicle. The op-ed reads as follows:

We must protect kids from bullying
By KATHLEEN SEBELIUS and ARNE DUNCAN
HOUSTON CHRONICLE
Oct. 9, 2010 

Asher Brown was a 13-year-old straight-A student in Houston. Tyler Clementi was 18, a college freshman who played violin in the Rutgers Symphony Orchestra. Seth Walsh, a 13-year-old from a small city in central California, loved French fries and Pokemon cards. Billy Lucas was a 15-year-old from Indiana who showed horses. Justin Aaberg from Minnesota was 15 too and posted his cello music on YouTube.

What did these young people have in common? They all died recently by suicide after being harassed because they were gay or believed to be gay.

Millions of young people will wake up in America today knowing they'll be bullied before the day is over. For many, the harassment will focus on their race, a physical or intellectual disability, their performance at school, or another characteristic that sets them apart.

We know that gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender students are among the most likely to be targeted. Four out of five gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender middle-schoolers say they are regularly harassed because of their actual or perceived sexual orientation or gender identity. Three quarters of high-schoolers say they "frequently" or "often" hear derogatory and homophobic remarks.

As these attacks add up, they can become an unbearable burden for young people. Bullied teens are more likely to abuse drugs or alcohol. They're more likely to skip school. They're more likely to be depressed. The result is that gay, lesbian and bisexual teens are up to seven times more likely to have reported attempting suicide than their peers.

We cannot continue to stand by while our children are subjected to this physical and emotional violence. Protecting young people from bullying is just as essential to their healthy development as making sure they have good teachers and access to health care.

Over the years, we've heard excuse after excuse for why this harassment continues. One argument is that bullying often happens out of sight - in locker rooms, deserted hallways and on social media websites. But we know that 85 percent of bullying happens in front of witnesses, including adults.

Others operate under the sad belief that bullying is just another part of growing up, that it "toughens kids up." The events of these last few months should put this outrageous theory to rest.

Still others say some kids are just mean and there's nothing we can do about it. But this excuse ignores the effective strategies we've developed for reducing bullying. For example, in schools that have an anti-harassment policy that specifically addresses sexual orientation or gender identity, gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender students are 50 percent more likely to feel safe in school and one-third less likely to skip a class.

Even more promising are approaches that get entire communities involved. When principals, teachers, school nurses, pediatricians, social workers, faith leaders, law enforcement agents, parents and youth all have the information they need to recognize bullying and respond to it, bullies get a clear message that their behavior is unacceptable.

That's why last year, the Departments of Education and Health and Human Services joined forces with four other departments to create a federal task force on bullying. In August, the task force staged the first-ever National Bullying Summit, bringing together 150 top state, local, civic and corporate leaders to begin mapping out a national plan to end bullying. And we launched a new website, www.bullyinginfo.org, which brings all the federal re- sources on bullying together in one place for the first time ever.

We're also getting students involved. The Stop Bullying Now! Campaign has 80 partners across the country that help reach youth with an anti-bullying message everywhere from elementary and middle schools to Boys and Girls Clubs to public libraries to 4-H clubs.

And last week, the Department of Education's new Safe and Supportive Schools program announced grants to 11 states to help them to use student, family and staff surveys to create "school safety scores" for schools in their states. Additional funds will be available for the schools with the biggest safety concerns.

We're launching a similar effort to mobilize communities to prevent suicides. Last month, the Department of Health and Human Services helped announce an unprecedented National Action Alliance for Suicide Prevention, which brings together a wide range of public and private partners to coordinate anti-suicide efforts. One of its specific goals is preventing suicide in at-risk groups, including gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender youth.

Building safe neighborhoods and schools where young people can thrive is a job for all of us, not just government or schools or parents. It means speaking up the next time you hear someone use a homophobic slur, stepping in when you encounter a bully in action, and letting your local school board know that bullying isn't just part of growing up - it's a serious danger to our children.

The events of the last few weeks have filled many of us with sadness and anger. They should also fill us with determination to do everything we can to stand up for Seth, Tyler, Asher, Billy, Justin and millions of other young people who can't do it for themselves.

Sebelius is secretary of health and human services; Duncan is secretary of education.

Anonymous2 years ago
Sadly enough, I feel like it will be a long time before bullying stops being a problem in grade schools across the country. While bullying aimed towards the young LGBT community is a newer growing issue, bullying in itself is not. I don't think there's anything wrong with having trainings in schools on how to handle diversity, bullying, intolerance, etc, but I am skeptical on the effectiveness of such trainings. What seems to be the bigger problem here is the RESPONSE to the bullying. Bullying should not be driving kids to committing suicide. And this is why having a safe place to be themselves is important. I disagree with the notion that a public school is that safe place. Public schools don't turn away racists, bigots, the violent or the immature. That safe place is supposed to be home. The problem is that many young people in the LGBT community do not feel safe at home, which is why the response to the bullying is so drastic.
Anonymous2 years ago
I agree that schools should receive funding for education and training on LGBT. I also wish that the conversation could be elevated to discuss about people as people and not to focus on each others personal choices. Parents need education and training as well. Schools should work with PTSAs and PTAs to discuss how parents can lead these discussions at home. Unfortunately I have a feeling some of the current "home" discussions are what's causing these horrible acts by some children. The broader the discussion the more likely the source of such twisted thinking will be revealed.
J. Lewis - Straight Ally2 years ago
Unfortunately bullying seems to be a “natural” element of attending school as “stronger” individuals or groups tend to take advantage of “weaker” individuals or groups. The strong tend to show the weak little to no respect, and in my opinion, this is what bullying and harassment boils down to – lack of respect for others. Human beings should be respected for their humanity regardless of their lifestyle. People can and should show respect for one another regardless of whether they accept or approve of someone’s lifestyle. Doing otherwise is absolutely inhumane. All forms of diversity should be actively addressed in schools. Having anti-bullying and harassment policies without trainings for students and staff and without real consequences for violations of these policies means little to the students that experience harassment. Practice must uphold policy. Without practice, policy simply serves as lip service. However, choices that families make in the home concerning views about the LGBT community is an important factor that will influence how receptive students are in school. Schools that seek to provide welcoming environments for all students should be celebrated and should be rewarded with funding for trainings by organizations such as GLSEN. I suppose another way to lessen acts of bullying and harassment would be to inflict harsh punishments such as detention, suspension and expulsion for the violators of the school policy. Students shouldn’t be punished for their beliefs but they should be punished for poor actions taken against others. On another note, it’s interesting that this conversation of bullying and harassment for those in the LGBT community in schools is concurrent with the national conversation on marriage for LGBT. The issues facing the LGBT community are experienced because of the way people, communities and governments choose to respond to their sexual orientation. How these entities choose to respond to LGBT issues coincide with their personal beliefs, which may be influenced by various factors. Unfortunately, the LGBT community is in the minority, just like African Americans during the Civil Rights Movement and being in the minority allows the stronger majority to take advantage of this marginalized community. It’ll be hard to have productive conversations and actions in favor of the LGBT community in schools with the current negative view of the LGBT community nationally. I hope that this group continues to exercise their voice until their human rights are no longer violated.
Michelle2 years ago
Thanks for sharing this post with me Martens. I completely agree with you and the message that was conveyed within this article. To answer your two questions I do believe that it would be beneficial for schools to receive funding for trainings by organizations like GLSEN. This seems like a preventive measure that many schools don’t have in place to safe guard the students from incidents like this from occurring. But, I also believe that a lot of the problems begin at home. We live in a culture that supports those that taunt and bully others because of sexual orientation. These teenagers learn to be discriminatory from their family members, friends, and communities. We as a society are simply not accepting of those that we perceive to be different and as a result statistics like the ones you shared above are rising. When is enough going to be enough? How many people have to die before our eyes are opened? This issue particularly hits close to home because my best friend is a lesbian. I couldn’t image my life without her in it. Sexual orientation doesn’t measure a person’s worth. I truly hope that the students in these schools are receiving counseling regarding the current suicides, as well as the topic of sexual orientation and how it relates to multiculturalism.
Marco2 years ago
I mostly agree with the comments above. I believe that bullying (especially for LGBTQ youth) needs to be addressed on two levels--education and policy. With regard to the former, education is needed in the form of training for students and teachers to combat the culture of violence that is pervasive in our society against women, men who identify as or are perceived to be gay, and gender non-conforming folks. While most diversity training is designed around the theme of tolerance, there's an assumption about that that I found problematic. It assumes that LGBTQ youth are the "problem" that heterosexual students need to tolerate or "respect." I believe it is also necessary to include in the training discussions of how power operates in our society. What I mean by that is that to effectively train students and teachers to combat bullying and other forms of violence we need to also discuss privilege--namely heteronormativity and its evil companion homo/transphobia. Similarly, policy needs to address the ways in which discrimination and violence against the LGBTQ community is institutionalized. As much as I have criticized the Obama Administration, I believe the passing of the Matthew Sheppard Act to include sexual orientation in the description of a hate crime is a move in the right direction towards addressing these issues on a policy level.
Anonymous2 years ago
The protection of and love for every child must be at the core of every school, and to reflect on the suicide of precious children who were taunted by their peers is a horrid thought. Being the parent of two children, I am also concerned about what they experience in school. But I am also a Christian parent who teaches his children to love everyone, no matter how different others are and no matter what their beliefs might be. As Christians, you must learn to be in the world but not allow the world to be in you. As a Christian parent whose children attend public schools, I also do not want my children to be taught to accept something that violates our beliefs. Does "public" mean that my children and I leave our beliefs at home just to attend a "public" school for which my taxes support? Does "public" mean that my children and I must be forced to accept as natural what our faith does not condone? Perhaps, the approach to dealing with this issue in schools should focus on respect for others - not acceptance. You might ask what is the difference. In my mind, there is a fine line, but a line just a the same. It is possible to respect those who differ from you and not accept their beliefs.
Jessica2 years ago
Great post Martens. I absolutely agree, and I think trainings are a great first step to education and discussion. Young people need safe spaces to discuss with adults who can facilitate conversation and contain negative reactions. A secondary and necessary action for change---is policy. Schools, government, institutions, etc should create inclusion policies that don't force values but demand a respectful environment.

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